Over the years, I used to believe in myths about healing from trauma. You know the saying “sticks and bones may break your bones, but words will never hurt me.” Words do hurt. They can cut through someone’s soul for a day, a moment or a lifetime. Or how about these other myths: people that experience trauma are broken forever, they should stop talking about it, or time will heal all wounds. Although, there are myths about healing, there are also several biblical truths to know about as you heal from trauma.
Healing from Trauma
You need to be willing to heal
Some people are unwilling to heal from their past traumas. They get stuck on familiarity; familiar pain, hurt, depression, fear, anxiety. They will cope by NOT FEELING. They will avoid, suppress, numb themselves, or project those difficult feelings to cope with the pain because mom, grandma, and generations before did the same thing!
By the way, this is where familiar spirits get their name. Familiar spirits are generational attitudes or behavior patterns that are practiced in a bloodline. For instance, the bible talks about different spirits that can operate in a person’s life ( spirit of rejection, spirit of offense, and spirit of fear). If left unchecked, a familiar spirit can have a hold on a person’s well-being, mental thought process, and how they approach life. However, God teaches us how to break free from toxic generational attitudes with the power of His love.
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind
2 Timothy 1:7
Jesus came to save the world from perishing in their sin. He also came to heal the broken heart-ed. God being the gentleman that He is will not force His way into the doors of a person’s heart if they remain closed. That person needs to be willing to open the door so He can love them well. God’s love is the healing balm for any infected wound in a person’s soul.
Healing from trauma is an active process rather than a passive one
On my healing journey, He walked with me, shared with me revelations of my heart, and showed me the pain inflicted on me by my mother. As I prayer journal-ed, He showed up big time! He nurtured me as a mother and held me in His arms when I felt unsafe.
You see, it was an active process of constantly being in communication with God in my journals, remaining close to Him, experiencing His love, and applying wisdom from Heaven.
Accept the process when healing from trauma
There are several types of wound healing. Some wounds are infected and require special medical treatment. Other wounds can be superficial requiring rest and time to heal. Lastly, there are hidden wounds that require someone to remind us that a wound is there. Wherever you are in the process, accept it, don’t give up, and allow God to make your wound whole.
Not everyone will understand your healing process
Many people will not be able to understand what you are going through in your healing journey. I had some people use my trauma story against me to define my character and identity. For instance, during arguments I have been told “you are just like your mother” or “this is why, you are the way that you are.” This was abusive in nature. But I believe it was because these people felt threatened ( their trauma was exposed and their verbal abuse was a defensive measure).
It is very important to be careful about who you share your trauma story with at the beginning of your healing journey. Think about your community and what they mean to you. For instance, you can put your community circle in a category of deep intimacy community, close community, and acquaintances.
Deep intimacy community– are intimate friends, family that are God centered. They are the ones that you can share your deepest secrets, concerns, and life struggles without the fear of judgement.
Close community– close friends or love ones that you can share seasonal or life events that align with your purpose.
Acquaintances community– people that only will have surface level information about your life.
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God’s timing heals all wounds
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-4
As the scripture says, there is a time for everything to occur in your life. Move at the pace of the season that you are in. When seasons change, you can sense the shift in the environment, with the leaves falling to bring room to the blossoming of flowers and luscious green leaves. In spring, there is also a fresh ocean breeze in the air and many people are outdoors to soak up the sun and wonderful weather.
Right now it is important to ask yourself, what season are you in right now? The order can change depending on your relationship with the Lord.
Birthing season
Birthing and manifesting the vision that God placed inside of you for the world to see. He wants the plans that He has for you to come to FULL fruition.
Uprooting Season
God removes from the ground of your heart, weeds that were choking up your spiritual growth. He then empowers you to recognize distractions or any old wounds with the power of the Holy Spirit.
Healing Season
You start to heal in many areas that were neglected by your parents. God heals and restores places in your heart that needs to be nurtured deeply.
Building Stage
You start to build a life with God. He shows you the blueprint and you are able to build according to His plans and purposes for your life.
Laughing Season
No more mourning or grieving. You realize that God received the glory from your grieving. He collected all of your tears and turned all of your ashes into beauty. You are fully joyful in the presence of the Lord.
Dancing Season
This is dancing with Jesus and walking in the flow of the Holy Spirit. There is a holy union happening in this stage.
